Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. When it comes to sex in 2025--who's having it, who isn't, and how--perceptions are all over the place. Is Gen Z sliding back in time? Are middle-aged women finally having good sex, or none at all? And what exactly is going on with seniors in retirement homes? In the series Pillow Talk, we interview one person in a specific time and place in their lives about what sex looks like for them and their peers, in every enlightening (and excruciating) detail. Get in touch if you have an idea for a subject--or if you have a story to tell.

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Stoya and Rich here. As a sexually dominant-leaning female, I get a lot of instant gratification out of gorgeous women online telling me my assertiveness is impressive and sexy. When I have sex with women in my dreams, it's perfect. While my "traditional" long-term relationships have been with male-presenting people, I slept with several women in my early 20s--though I struggled to find satisfying connections.

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Stoya and Rich here. My first crush ever was on my uncle. I've noticed an attraction to two of my cousins. I've never, ever considered acting on these desires or told anyone, but I'm wondering if this is normal. Is my brain missing the evolutionary programming that makes you not want to fuck your family?

As I scan my Netflix page, which rectangular tiles leap to the forefront of my attention? There's Sexify, with its promotional photo of a woman's face seemingly captured at the peak of passion. Or maybe I should watch Lucifer, its star staring shirtlessly into my soul, his chest so uncannily hairless it looks like a video game character's. The answer to What Lies Below might be a jacked aquatic geneticist with a Superman jaw line, but other mysteries are left teasingly unsolved by Netflix's most popular titles. For a while this spring, Why Did You Kill Me? jostled for space on the Top 10 list with Who Killed Sara?

Millions of women over the last two decades have undergone vaginal mesh surgery, but it has recently become clear just how many have experienced severe complications. In our main interview this week, we hear from Sohier Elneil, one of the few surgeons in the UK qualified to remove mesh. Here, Kath Sansom shares her story of what it's like to undergo the treatment and the impact it had on her life. She had a mesh sling implanted in March 2015 to treat mild stress urinary incontinence. It was removed seven months later.

It seems window shopping on Tinder is becoming as common as scrolling through Instagram, even among those who are off the market. According to new research, 35 per cent of British people still use dating apps when in a relationship. Despite the shocking stastistic, one in five of the 2,100 people surveyed by specialist law firm Slater and Gordon said this is just part and parcel of the modern day dating life and they'wouldn't mind' if their partner used a dating app. The younger generations seemed even more accepting with two thirds of 16-24 years old admitting they would happily forgive their other-half if they found them checking out other'options' online. Just under half of the men (46 per cent) who were surveyed admitted to using the modern dating tool while in a relationship.